April 24, 2014 in Daily Doable
Where You Put Your Attention Expands
So, I am one of the crossing guards at my kid’s elementary school (no, I do not wear an orange vest because that would be a deal breaker) and generally I love it. I get to know the kids as they pass by me every day, I get paid to drive my kids to school, and I get to go to faculty parties which are always something to speak of. The biggest down side, however, is being in the elements every day of the school year. Living in northern Utah presents some bitterly cold/windy/wet weather. I have to admit, my attitude towards being a crossing guard tends to wane in the middle of January. By then we have had 3 months of snow, there is no more Christmas to look forward to, only more gray cold days. One day while at the cross walk I was standing on the corner, generally being annoyed by the layers of dirt filled ice crusted snow on the road when I saw the little leaf in the picture sitting in (of all places) the gutter. It was beautiful. This perfect little gem, left over from the beauty of summer, perfectly preserved and clothed in a blanket of frost crystals was sitting in the dirties, wettest place on the street. It struck me how something so lovely could exist in surroundings so dismal. I couldn’t help myself, I grabbed out my phone and snapped a shot. That was over a year ago, and I can’t bring myself to erase it. I think the reason why is written on the picture. It’s no secret that I go to therapy regularly (I believe anyone in the world can benefit from a good therapist) and one day Karen pointed out to me that what ever you are focussing on is all that you will see. If you think a lot about how your kids are making you crazy, they will make you more crazy. If you think negative things about your neighbor, then you will only see those negative traits, blinding you to their good ones. If you believe the world is a hopeless place, your heart will continually fill it’s self with despair. So change your focus. Think about and focus on the good around you. Look for reasons to be grateful and happy. If you find yourself dwelling on negative thoughts try to think of something that makes you happy. It’s a simple and profound truth. If you look at your life through the blinders of negativity then negativity is all you will see. This little leaf taught me that. There is beauty and joy all around if you look for it.